About Quinten Hackwood
How I work
I think we are shaped by our relationships and believe that everyone needs and deserves to be seen, known, and accepted. I think that the ultimate goal of therapy is to explore these basic needs in a supportive environment and to take what we learn from the therapeutic relationship into the rest of our lives.
I work from a Relational-Cultural Therapy perspective that’s explicitly embedded in social justice values. Inside and outside of session I am dedicated to anti-oppression, a practice of self-awareness and responsiveness, and cultivating a positive relationship with the land, its caretakers, and protectors.
The work of psychotherapy for me comes down to supporting you to find a way of showing up that feels authentic and true to your values and desires. How do you want to show up for yourself? How do you want to show up in your relationships? How can we care for, grieve, and/or change what’s getting in the way of that?
In session, we might explore what your authenticity looks like, either as an individual or created as a couple. We can look at what’s going on internally, how that relates to the past and how that’s showing up externally now in your relationship/s–but always with an eye on how the outside world–culture, oppression, capitalism– is contributing to your set of strengths and challenges. We can can work together to explore these impacts on you and how you respond to your life.
As a disabled, neurodivergent, queer and trans person who has experienced many beginnings, endings, and life transitions, I understand what it can mean to feel out of place or unmoored, and I also know the joy that can come from forming enriching relationships that let you grow into yourself. I came to my desire to be a helper by being helped, and my previous experience lies in peer support and community education (specifically around consent, BDSM, and romantic relationships). Sometimes the scripts we have been given to guide us in our lives don’t work for us. There is sometimes grief in that, but also a rich opportunity to write our own stories.
I sincerely welcome people of all a/sexualities, a/genders, relationship styles, and family compositions to reach out for a meeting.
Areas of Interest
• relationships (couples and non-monogamous partnerships, queerplatonic and asexual partnerships, as well as family and friends)
• sex and/or physical intimacy (including kink, BDSM, platonic, asexual)
• identity (such as gender, sexuality, parenthood, and neurodivergent and neuroqueer identities)
• life changes and transitions (birth, death, relocation, gender)
More about me
My previous experience lies in peer mental health support and community education. My kink workshops focussed primarily on communication for safety and joy in BDSM, as well as how to communicate needs and negotiate boundaries within a relationship (romantic or otherwise). I have also worked in support and solidarity for addiction and mental health service users, and I bring knowledge and humility from these experiences.
I also have an arts background, collaborating on productions of small-scale small budget films, as well as other collaborative arts.
Perhaps not surprising, I spend most of my down time playing tabletop RPGs and video games, or watching reality tv
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario 10635
Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology, Yorkville University
BFA Film Production, York University
My social media presence on Instagram, Youtube, and TikTok are largely inactive at the moment. Please note I no longer have an account on the (now rebranded) bird site, so any ‘@mightyfeels’ there is not mine